Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Being single for quiet a while, I have been on dating sites from time to time, I didn't know when you look at profiles, you need to add to age, height, subtract the weight, add hair to their head. On some occasions you need to assume. Doesn't have a child meant they have kids, being divorce means still married. While talking to a friend, I was telling her how these people lie and she asked me do you believe everything you read online? Yes, I answered. So she was the one who suggested you should look beyond that. So next time I was online, someone IM me, First I took the time to read what he has in his public profile;
Single, 37, never been married, no kids, 6'2". 180 pounds and go on and on. I answered his page and after of couple of minutes this is how our conversation went on;

Persian humor: How old You really are?
Single guy: 44
Persian humor: Have you ever been married?
Single guy: Twice
Persian humor: Do you have kids?
Single guy: 2
Persian humor: How tall are you?
Single guy: 5'9"
Persian humor: Are you 180 pound?
Single guy: I am trying to loose 20 pounds, so I'll be there pretty soon
Persian humor: Is there anything in your profile that is true
Single guy: Yes, I am looking for a girl who is between; 20 to 30
Persian humor: But why lie? Don't you think she would find out?
Single guy: She wouldn't be able to say no to my charm.
Persian humor: What would you have in common with someone who is 20 years younger than you?
Single guy: She would make me feel young again.
Persian humor: Why did you IM me, I am not in that age category.
Single guy: I have decided to give you a chance!!
Persian humor: I Give UP. And I ended the chat.

Now the question is why? Why some people just lie to get things in life, Once I was approached by this guy who said he was widow.
The poor thing cried and went to details of how his poor wife passed away. I was crying just thinking what he went through. It turned out the poor wife is very much alive and instead of one kid, they have three. Those other two kids, were the ones he would talk about as his nieces.
The first thing they want is to see your picture, and they don't even want to send their own picture first. Well this tall young doctor Im me once, that's what he said about himself. And the first thing he asked me was for my picture. I said I will reply with my picture when I see yours. His answer was so childish, I didn't even want to continue my conversation with him, He asnwered, I asked first and that's the rule. Like we are in Kindergarten. I responded, well that's how it goes. I don't go by your rules. He said whatever. I said Good bye. I think he had this impression that just because he thinks he is a MD, He could get what he wants. He had his first no That day.
I am not saying its just guys. Ladies lie too. They send picture of family, friends and the poor guy talkes to them thinking they are someone else. I have heard stories of how this one guy talked to this lady he thought is in her late 30S. After exchanging pictures and talking on the phone on daily bases they decided to meet. He gets to the Airport waiting and waiting and no sign of her. There is a tap on his shoulder, he turns around and sees this lady in mid 50, he asks if he could help her, she says I am your date. NO, he answers you are not her. You are not the picture I saw. Her answer was, that's my daughter's picture. I looked exactly like that when I was 37. He just turns around and flies back home. Not being able to trust ladies again.
So if we can't trust what we are told online, What is online dating good for?
 
posted by Persianeyes at 6:48 PM |


1 Comments:


At August 12, 2006 5:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous

I guess the promise of online dating sounded great to their creators. On the business plan where everything is black and white, there is nothing wrong with the idea of setting up two people in the cyber world. No harm will come of that. Their focus is/was on the physical aspect of well being of the people - forgetting that we-the humans-are multidimensional. The emotional part is the one that feed us and provide energy and will to survive. And that part can be scratched, damaged, and even broken without any touch. This is the part that is connected to our senses, sight, sound, taste, touch, and yes smell. Any of one these senses can detect dishonesty and disturb our emotional balance.
So if anyone is looking for his/her dream on the cyber world( or any other world) better have all his/her senses in high alert. You must recognize that it is not the world, but its the people who make the world that you have to watch for.
As why people lie to get what they want, I can name a few but I think the major part is that
they dont know themselves well enough to realize what makes them happy. It is true that no matter what we do, we search for happiness in all places and sometimes at any cost. Lying is the cheapest, easiest form to get what we want. Unfortunately we have to cover one lie with another until we are busted. You can also see the lie as a source of insecurities. Hiding your negatives is the obvious sign of not knowing yourself. If you are sure of who you are then your job, kids, your financial, and.... will not be your short comings but your strength. People must discover that simplicity is the beginning of happiness and HONESTY always bring that into your life.
Wish you all happy life.