I didn't know with middle school comes the drama of believing that they are old and they could act like teenagers. The other day I got a call at work, I thought something important has happened, turned out my daughter wanted to know if I would let her go to Ice skating with other school kids. She said since we all had survived school for a week, there is a kids night out for all of us. Well I didn't promise right away since I hadn't gotten any paper from school. I told them I will discuss it at home and we see what happens.
As soon as I got home, they started asking if they could be dropped off to Ice skating place. I started to ask them questions;

Mom: How come I didn't get any papers that will inform me about such a thing?
Twins: Well its just for popular kids, not everyone is going
Mom: Then who is going?
Twins: There 3 more girls and 2 boys from our classes.
Mom: Did you guys decided today to go there?
Twins: Well its a teen night, we are supposed to say we are 13 and get in.
Mom: Were you going to lie about your age?
Twins: Well mom everyone else was going to, they said they never check anyway.
Mom: Honey You never lie about your age. You just enjoy every moment of it. There must be a reason that they have a teen night and its not for you.
Twins: Our friends told us not to tell our parents.
Mom: I am so proud of you guys that you told me. Do you think its right to lie in order to go somewhere?
Twins: Now they were embarrassed. We were going to tell you.

I am sure they would have told me eventually since I never leave them anywhere by them selves anyway. I decided not to push the issue any more than that, because I want them to be able to talk to me in the future.
We compromise by going to block buster and getting movies for the night.
This is just one night and there are many more to come and to deal with. I am just glad I talked to them and found out what the other mothers didn't.